SaintJust posted:

daddyholes posted:

i hope everyone has nice plans to go out for valentines day, when i was single it was usually a good day to meet someone especially when it was on a weekend

agreed, hope everyone manages to "net" a cock this valentine's day!

troolari posted:

do i look like i dont DESERTV love

look dude you can't just decide to be the male conec and expect it to end well

guidoanselmi posted:

well i guess my gf and i are breaking up. that's love for ya

TG posted:

no connection

she feels that despite a lot of things working out phenomenally well. i'm a little too jaded and analytical for her tastes (in slight detail, she isn't confident in expressing some deep opinions because she's worried about me casually pulling a cefte. she got flustered a few times when i was trying to help her with her research a la http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/physicists.png.) also she feels inadequate in being able to enjoy the things i find interesting. not to mention i wanna raise lil godhavin' children which she wouldnt mind save for the godhavin' part. frankly, i love her for being a generally happier, simpler (as far as interests go) person.

i guess otoh she should be more emotionally honest, less of a workaholic (which compared to me is frightening), and it would feel kinda awkward to die next to someone who feels they're at a loss of how to appreciate you and the way you lived.

frankly, i'm feel rather hopeless of finding someone else remotely of her caliber as a person and someone i would be compatible with.

thanks for the space to vent, rhizzone.

TG posted:

condolulations guido. last time i had a breakup my friend was like "im so pumped for you, there are so many new opportunities and adventures waiting for you out there!" and at the time i thought he was being an asshole but later i reflected on it and he was right and it stuck with me more than all of the "bummer dude"s from everyone else

honestly, being in academia/govt/industry for STEM is pretty horrendous for finding people. especially when your personal interests are not in STEM.

troolari posted:

I'm in my early 30s and I've just started dating within the past year. So far I have felt almost no emotional connection to the women with whom I've gone on first dates.

On a somewhat related note, I have been getting very mixed signals from a friend of mine. She's been flirting with me pretty blatantly, however when I asked her about it in January(this has been going on for a while), she indicated that she was not sexually attracted to me. Consequently, I have since not responded to her advances.

How am I supposed to know if I'm attracted to someone?

i saw this post too, op

guidoanselmi posted:

thanks, i actually appreciate the sentiment. kinda hard to tell people i know personally because of how visibly we love each other/how highly i speak of her. but she got a dream job (tenure track prof at an ivy league) so she'll be moving and:

TG posted:

no connection



she feels that despite a lot of things working out phenomenally well. i'm a little too jaded and analytical for her tastes (in slight detail, she isn't confident in expressing some deep opinions because she's worried about me casually pulling a cefte. she got flustered a few times when i was trying to help her with her research a la http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/physicists.png.) also she feels inadequate in being able to enjoy the things i find interesting. not to mention i wanna raise lil godhavin' children which she wouldnt mind save for the godhavin' part. frankly, i love her for being a generally happier, simpler (as far as interests go) person.

i guess otoh she should be more emotionally honest, less of a workaholic (which compared to me is frightening), and it would feel kinda awkward to die next to someone who feels they're at a loss of how to appreciate you and the way you lived.

frankly, i'm feel rather hopeless of finding someone else remotely of her caliber as a person and someone i would be compatible with.

thanks for the space to vent, rhizzone.

TG posted:

condolulations guido. last time i had a breakup my friend was like "im so pumped for you, there are so many new opportunities and adventures waiting for you out there!" and at the time i thought he was being an asshole but later i reflected on it and he was right and it stuck with me more than all of the "bummer dude"s from everyone else



honestly, being in academia/govt/industry for STEM is pretty horrendous for finding people. especially when your personal interests are not in STEM.

break-up songs to help process things ftw

http://twohandfools.bandcamp.com/track/crestfallen

frankly, i'm feel rather hopeless of finding someone else remotely of her caliber as a person and someone i would be compatible with.

i know it seems tough right now but a commenter on a relationship article the other day said something that might help

There is not a woman alive who could not achieve orgasm by watching her husband, father or son burn to death before her eyes.

SaintJust posted:

being incapable of love when your attractive owns

this, also when your unattractive, or middlingly attractive.

palafox posted:

Ironicwarcriminal posted:

guidoanselmi posted:

thanks, i actually appreciate the sentiment. kinda hard to tell people i know personally because of how visibly we love each other/how highly i speak of her. but she got a dream job (tenure track prof at an ivy league) so she'll be moving and:

TG posted:

no connection



she feels that despite a lot of things working out phenomenally well. i'm a little too jaded and analytical for her tastes (in slight detail, she isn't confident in expressing some deep opinions because she's worried about me casually pulling a cefte. she got flustered a few times when i was trying to help her with her research a la http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/physicists.png.) also she feels inadequate in being able to enjoy the things i find interesting. not to mention i wanna raise lil godhavin' children which she wouldnt mind save for the godhavin' part. frankly, i love her for being a generally happier, simpler (as far as interests go) person.

i guess otoh she should be more emotionally honest, less of a workaholic (which compared to me is frightening), and it would feel kinda awkward to die next to someone who feels they're at a loss of how to appreciate you and the way you lived.

frankly, i'm feel rather hopeless of finding someone else remotely of her caliber as a person and someone i would be compatible with.

thanks for the space to vent, rhizzone.

TG posted:

condolulations guido. last time i had a breakup my friend was like "im so pumped for you, there are so many new opportunities and adventures waiting for you out there!" and at the time i thought he was being an asshole but later i reflected on it and he was right and it stuck with me more than all of the "bummer dude"s from everyone else



honestly, being in academia/govt/industry for STEM is pretty horrendous for finding people. especially when your personal interests are not in STEM.

break-up songs to help process things ftw

http://twohandfools.bandcamp.com/track/crestfallen



i know it seems tough right now but a commenter on a relationship article the other day said something that might help

There is not a woman alive who could not achieve orgasm by watching her husband, father or son burn to death before her eyes.




yo iwc i thought that was a funny quote so I tried to find its source, and if you think of things like this as relationship articles then i dunno what to tell you


http://exposingfeminism.wordpress.com/shaming-tactics/

how is it not an article (and subsequent discussion) about relationships