tpaine posted:

for real though if you would think it acceptable for even a second to foist yourself on another human being in any capacity you aren't self-aware in the slightest

actually i'm going to get married and have a wonderful life. maybe you could move to canada and we could hang out. these two sentences don't have to be related.... but they could be.

dank_xiaopeng posted:

roll call y'all how many zzoners are actually in fulfilling romantic relationships

apologies in advance if this has been asked alread but im not going to read this thread

i have a crush on old_fat_sin_nations but please don't share as im shy about it

libelous_slander posted:

dank_xiaopeng posted:
roll call y'all how many zzoners are actually in fulfilling romantic relationships

apologies in advance if this has been asked alread but im not going to read this thread
i have a crush on old_fat_sin_nations but please don't share as im shy about it

I tried to upvote this but:

worthless posted:

libelous_slander posted:

dank_xiaopeng posted:
roll call y'all how many zzoners are actually in fulfilling romantic relationships

apologies in advance if this has been asked alread but im not going to read this thread
i have a crush on old_fat_sin_nations but please don't share as im shy about it

I tried to upvote this but:

*Red Salute*

Ironicwarcriminal posted:

palafox posted:

Ironicwarcriminal posted:

guidoanselmi posted:

thanks, i actually appreciate the sentiment. kinda hard to tell people i know personally because of how visibly we love each other/how highly i speak of her. but she got a dream job (tenure track prof at an ivy league) so she'll be moving and:

TG posted:

no connection



she feels that despite a lot of things working out phenomenally well. i'm a little too jaded and analytical for her tastes (in slight detail, she isn't confident in expressing some deep opinions because she's worried about me casually pulling a cefte. she got flustered a few times when i was trying to help her with her research a la http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/physicists.png.) also she feels inadequate in being able to enjoy the things i find interesting. not to mention i wanna raise lil godhavin' children which she wouldnt mind save for the godhavin' part. frankly, i love her for being a generally happier, simpler (as far as interests go) person.

i guess otoh she should be more emotionally honest, less of a workaholic (which compared to me is frightening), and it would feel kinda awkward to die next to someone who feels they're at a loss of how to appreciate you and the way you lived.

frankly, i'm feel rather hopeless of finding someone else remotely of her caliber as a person and someone i would be compatible with.

thanks for the space to vent, rhizzone.

TG posted:

condolulations guido. last time i had a breakup my friend was like "im so pumped for you, there are so many new opportunities and adventures waiting for you out there!" and at the time i thought he was being an asshole but later i reflected on it and he was right and it stuck with me more than all of the "bummer dude"s from everyone else



honestly, being in academia/govt/industry for STEM is pretty horrendous for finding people. especially when your personal interests are not in STEM.

break-up songs to help process things ftw

http://twohandfools.bandcamp.com/track/crestfallen



i know it seems tough right now but a commenter on a relationship article the other day said something that might help

There is not a woman alive who could not achieve orgasm by watching her husband, father or son burn to death before her eyes.




yo iwc i thought that was a funny quote so I tried to find its source, and if you think of things like this as relationship articles then i dunno what to tell you


http://exposingfeminism.wordpress.com/shaming-tactics/



how is it not an article (and subsequent discussion) about relationships

although that is definitely technically correct, it's also technically correct to describe mein kampf as a stirring bildungsroman

Bablu posted:

i will be arranged married to a stranger in like five six years in a five day long ritual that will bankrupt my family and hers and this thread is def warming me to the idea

when I was 16 my grandmother tried to arrange a marriage for me with a girl in her village, but I refused. I got bummed out the other day realizing that I had more value as a groom then, and would probably not be worth a lot on the arranged-marriage-market these days.