babyfinland posted:
evidence that men are right and women are stupid
but they all talk about how their male friends would be interested if they had a chance. substantively everyone's on the same page, the difference is in semantics
discipline posted:
aa oui but I might as well not be a woman as far as you know me...
i'm the gay girl in damascus
futurewidow posted:
he should have asked less attractive people
utah has no unattractive people
goatstein left a few months ago
in the end i opted for making dumb jokes
Impper posted:
i was talking about this to my friends and my instinct was to say that in many cases i value a friendship over having sex, since, after all, i'm not intensely attracted to most of my female friends, and if i were, i certainly wouldn't be able to hang out with them "platonically" without getting too agitated and either not being friends on account of some frustratingly unspoken sexual attraction or hashing out what exactly is going on (or, god forbid, making a move (or even worse, inviting the 'friend' to which i'm attracted out to a bar and picking a girl up there in a desperate attempt to cause some kind of jealousy - bad idea)). at the same time, it's a rough thing to say simply "I am not attracted to you," though i have done it in the past, simply because a woman did that to me before, even though i was not attracted to her either; though she didn't believe me when i told her and chose instead to believe that i was telling her i wasn't attracted to her out of spite.
in the end i opted for making dumb jokes
i think it's a failure of strength and imagination to not be able to rise above your contradictory libidinal drives categorically. Like, i'm sure there's a subjective position towards love where you cannot be 'just friends' with a certain person. but to make that a categorical gender distinction is fuckin pathetic. LoL.
futurewidow posted:
he should have asked less attractive people
i've known a few guys who say things like "i don't hang out around women i'm not attracted to".
discipline posted:
I think the kind of gender mixing that goes on nowadays (esp. w/r/t ideas of "friends") is very new and I don't know if we have been able to properly hash it out with regards to thousands of years of sexist baggage yet. the problem I generally encounter with men-who-are-friends is less of a question of sexual attraction and more a question of... other things.
Political Opinions!!! AHAHAHAH!!!!
anyway, i don't buy this, it's too vague, and doesn't seem to be true of USSR''=
http://www.gendercide.org/case_stalin.html << I rest my case, Your Onion
Crow posted:
"Sixty percent of Russians support the use of quotas for women in elections to executive and legislative offices." lol
isnt that just because like 70% of russians are women what with the men all dying of alcohol poisoning
deadken posted:Crow posted:
"Sixty percent of Russians support the use of quotas for women in elections to executive and legislative offices." lolisnt that just because like 70% of russians are women what with the men all dying of alcohol poisoning
why would that matter? how many american women support quotas for women in elections? it was 16% for the american population in 1995
personally i oppose that for single-constituency races because you can't neatly guarantee that pattern across a country. like how could decide, as in individual selecting one candidate for your area, that it'll balance out across the country. so we need proportional representation with lists so you can balance the lists.
discipline posted:
I don't see what representative quotas have to do with men + women being able to be friends? there is a high desire for representative quotas in palestine among both women and men but that would certainly be different if that was to assume men + women would suddenly be allowed mix freely... please advise
oh i was just thinking it was hilarious, in a country that now has this flagrant type of moral and systemic corruption: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/russia/2470310/Sexual-harrassment-okay-as-it-ensures-humans-breed-Russian-judge-rules.html
but anyway, i'd say it was much different during the socialist days, of course it wasnt a resolved issue by any means, i'm not arguing that at all. but there was definitely way more gender mixing back then from what i know from my mother than i ever see in contemporary america, its disgusting. how backwards
id like to get some sort of quantifiable data though
discipline posted:
please don't say that in public or my racist husband will stone me 2 death
EHehehhe
Crow posted:
i think it's a failure of strength and imagination to not be able to rise above your contradictory libidinal drives categorically. Like, i'm sure there's a subjective position towards love where you cannot be 'just friends' with a certain person. but to make that a categorical gender distinction is fuckin pathetic. LoL.
Crows shall die but crow shall not.
oh, yes of course, it is one thing to say this and another to comport yourself with dignity and humanity in your day to day relationships. what is particularly difficult though, perhaps only for me, is conducting (for whatever reason) a non-sexual relationship in one that has been sexually charged from the start, which is much different than being having a friendship with somebody you simply desire