libelous_slander posted:

laughter keeps the pain at bay

-Terry Gene Bollea, better known by his ring name Hulk Hogan

littlegreenpills posted:

thank you all for your wonderful and kind messages of goondolences and support especially ken and ilmidge. i love u all my Internet pals and want to bum you into next Tuesday. its been a long day. among other things we talked about an open relationship and she said she didn't like the idea of me sleeping with anyone else. now that's chutzpah!!!! im going to bed

bear with me here for a second while i belabor a shitty metaphor. imagine a builder who's made some structure and is testing its durability and how much weight it can withstand. he adds the first weight to it, and it holds, so he adds some more, and so on. eventually it collapses. his beautiful creation is destroyed, and he is shocked and disappointed. he is shocked, but relly this was inevitable, because every time it withstood the burden of the last weight placed upon it, he was always going to add some more, and its eventual collapse was the only possible outcome. every minute of a relationship spent in some sort of "trial separation," every minute spent in conversation with some other love interest, every liaison with a lover is placing more weight upon it and the result will be the predictable one. sometimes a gradual erosion and withdrawal like that may actually be an easier path to a final rupture... as far as saving the relationship, maybe somehow it leads to some sort of catharsis that brings u back together, but i don't think so...

anyway, it sounds like (from posts yove made before) she's already withdrawn pretty far, not even bothering around the house, or bothering about anything, and living a rather separate life. if she's depressed or troubled, her behavior has been alienating and pushing aside the person she needs most right now, which is self-destructive and hurtful to both of you. she resists breaking up because she isn't prepared for a violent & sudden end to the m arriage. but a quiet drifting apart she may accede to. it's probably juts another course to the same destination. if you have any interest in salvaging the relationship which is up to you because it can be hard to regain trust and to forgive and to decide whether it really even makes sense to be with this person anymore, what's needed is a halt to the drifting apart, and instead a clawing back together... an appreciation of one another and a new commitment to a shared elife, an attempt to recapture what used to be and to return to being invested in one another's lives.

it seems like, to me, there's a kind of liberal attitude among people that probably isn't at all new, but where people stay curious or unfulfilled and always are left thinking maybe there's something else out there, some magical lightning bolt of romantic happiness (like in the romcoms). They'll probably keep chasing that idea and think they find it several times but it fades and they move from one relationship to the next until they get older and settle down. but for now people like this feel like persisting in a marriage is foolish and "conservative." they think it is just sentencing themselves to a life of banal discontent. and they are right! because someone struggling with these thoughts and these doubts and this curiosity really isn't going to be happy in the long run, because of those very doubts... the symptom replicates the disease... The path to a successful marriage, then, to some measure of satisfaction in life, is faith in that relationship: a certitude that this is the person you want to be with, a complete commitment to the relationship, and a total dedication to your partner, and an absence of that emptiness and wandering eye. anywya i've gone through something tough myself obviously and know that it's hard so uhh good luck

tpaine posted:

babyhueypnewton posted:

posting in an epic thread. hope you feel better and also get your balls and drop her ho ass on the curb.

this isn't the philippines man

negro please

littlegreenpills posted:

thank you all for your wonderful and kind messages of goondolences and support especially ken and ilmidge. i love u all my Internet pals and want to bum you into next Tuesday. its been a long day. among other things we talked about an open relationship and she said she didn't like the idea of me sleeping with anyone else. now that's chutzpah!!!! im going to bed

This actually makes a lot of sense. Because a woman's value depreciates so quickly, it doesn't make much economic sense for anybody, especially herself, to take her commitments seriously. And of course, your commitments have more value, having a much longer potential dating life ahead of you. So really, you should be proud your wife is a rational economic actor.

tpaine posted:

like it darted out in front of me and i couldn't get out of the way and at first i felt sorry for it, then i got home and saw what it did and instantly i went from feeling bad to actively hoping it was still alive and bleeding out while screaming tanks of death roar past it on the road and remind it of what it was that caused its pain. that raccoon deserves to die 10000000 times over in its version of hell

getfiscal posted:

taxes are slavery. communism is the only strategy to end them.

theres a guy on twitter who genuinely believes this. he's an ex-marxist leninist.

jools posted:

theres a guy on twitter who genuinely believes this. he's an ex-marxist leninist.

haha i think i remember you telling me about him.